Family Traditions

 

My eldest daughter recently told me she wanted to start a new family tradition now that she has her first home that I helped her purchase, that we would get together every year at one of our houses & start this year at hers. She then said something that kinda surprised me, she said we don't really have any family traditions. 🤔

“Really we don't?” Well, I thought we did, I raised my kids with the tradition of going to church so they would have stability & role models & Pastor Murray came in handy when I needed his help as a male role model for my son, and yes it changed after Cory (my fiance) died in 2001 but in life things change. But church was a big part of our lives for a long time. I also had a tradition of celebrating birthdays no matter what, cause they were important & special as well as graduations, dressing up for them, celebrating in a big way and I stressed how important school was & I thought that would be remembered & carried on🤔. I had a tradition of giving money for Christmas & letting you buy your own gifts & wrapping them so when you opened them on Christmas day there were no complaints 😁remember that one? Guess not🤷‍♀️ yes we had some family traditions but I guess you forgot or they didn't mean the same to you as they did to me, so you forgot about those.

I think my daughter will realize when her kids are grown and all that she is trying to do for them to shape their lives & who they become and all the sacrifices, decisions whether good or bad come back to her in the form of judgment from her grown child, then she will understand. She will understand how I'm feeling now & I will be dead by then but she will at least know for a moment we shared a sadness, mine passed quickly because I know the strength of my mind & stubbornness to overcome what I have, I only hope she inherited that from me. The fact she allowed herself to get linked up with a weak disrespectful man concerns me for her future but as long as I’m alive he won’t hurt her life, well any more then he already has anyway, I only hope she sees him for what he truly is before his weakness and not having any honor or respect of family structure infects her children beyond repair. These things will matter in the end because man who doesn't respect his own mother, whether she deserves it or not, will never truly respect his woman & he’s already shown he’s willing to be disrespectful to woman's mother. This will pass down to his daughter by showing her that its okay for men to treat women this way, & he’s too damn ignorant to realize that he’s setting her up to end up settling for someone just like him. Its a terrible cycle. I pray it gets interrupted. My daughter deserves so much better & she’s much smarter then she knows, but I think this next year is going to be an awakening for her.

Main tradition watch out for each other no matter what!😎