Advanced healthcare directive

 I know most people don’t like to think about this topic much less actually write out plans, but believe me if you do it, you will save yourself & your family members so much heartache that it will be worth the time. I can tell you on more than one occasion in the ER with family there during a cardiac arrest that the Dr knew he should stop because it was too far gone & the pt would never recover or be brain dead,😔 but if there was no DNR (do not resuscitate) order & the family asked us to continue we would & sadly sometimes we could get them to revive on machines but not any quality 😥 so a life of no substance & bedsores, just my personal opinion, I think its cruel. That’s why I say discuss it with your family, make your wishes known.

My father was very clear about what he wanted, when he had his stroke he actually recovered quite well & fast but he was clear, no surgery, no feeding tubes, nothing, his words, “if its my time it’s my time, I don’t want all that shit.” So 5 yrs after his 1st stroke I believe he suffered a second stroke, cause he couldn't swallow & we went in to my ER, they did some tests & kept him overnight but the dr said if he didn’t get a feeding tube he would die, and he said “send me home”. I told the doctor to set up hospice & I’d be there to take care of him and my dad died 2 days later at home, with me by his side, after my son came by with his great grandson so he could see him & he visited via Skype with my daughter & other grandkids. That was what we had talked about before he got sick and I asked the questions “would you want this or that?” Donate this or that?, cause its the persons choice and you have to choose someone strong enough to do what You want, not what they want. If it had been my mom & he started to die at the house she would have called 911 🙄 cause she had no respect for the process, thats why he put me in charge of his care. I’m like my dad & won’t want delay of game, interference or nonsense when it’s my time & have it all written down! 😎👌

There are plenty of versions that are pre printed and you can easily edit to choose the options you want, just search “advanced healthcare directive” CA or whatever state you're in & talk to your loved one about your wishes, its the one thing you can’t do when the time comes 🤷‍♀️let them know where you stand on the important decisions, some people would never want to be keep alive on a machine for years, others would? Where are you? What if you had no chance of waking up? Does that change your mind? 🤔 talk about it, it matters! Don’t let the ER make this decision for you.